Convincing others of your genuine interest in their well-being requires a combination of concentrated, active listening, empathy, and consistent actions on your part. You can start by actively engaging in conversation, making eye contact, and showing that you are fully present. This demonstrates that you value what they are saying and that their feelings matter to you.
“The wise are known for their understanding. Their pleasant words make them better teachers.” (Prov. 16:21, NCV)
Ask open-ended questions about their experiences, interests, and challenges. This not only encourages them to share more but also signals that you are truly interested in understanding their perspective. As they share, validate their feelings by acknowledging their emotions and responding thoughtfully. This helps them feel safe to express themselves.
“A friend loves at all times…there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (Prov. 17:17; 18:24. NIV)
Also, follow up on previous conversations. Remembering details about their lives – such as a big event they mentioned or a goal they’re pursuing – shows that you care and are sincerely interested in their journey. Small gestures, like checking in with a text or offering help when you see they may be struggling, can enforce you’re your sincerity.
“Wise words satisfy like a good meal; the right words bring satisfaction.” (Prov. 18:20, NLT)
Consistency is key. Showing up for them, through needed support and/or in their successes, builds trust. Finally, be authentic. In due time, share your own experiences and vulnerabilities, fostering a reciprocal relationship where both parties feel valued and understood. Over time, your genuine care will shine through, deepening your connections and affirming your commitment to their well-being.
“Kind words are like honey— sweet to the soul and healthy for the body.” (Prov. 16:24, NLT)
-John Driggers, Spiritual Advisor for Myers-Davis Life Coaching (11/4/2024, V6 #45)
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