“How can you mend a broken heart? How can you stop the rain from falling down? How can you stop the sun from shining? What makes the world go round?” -Barry & Robin Gibb
Mending a broken heart and repairing a damaged relationship requires the patience of Job, the understanding of a loving grandmother, and the compassion of a caring nurse. Our remedy is this:
Allow yourself to feel hurt and whether due to sadness, anger, or confusion, this will create space for healing and help you to move forward. In nurturing your own emotional and physical well-being, you will still need to sleep well, eat well, exercise, and engage with life – whether it’s time alone, reaching out for advice, or engaging in activities that bring you joy and peace.
Writing down your thoughts and feelings can also provide clarity and release. Creative expression through music, or other outlets can help. Consider what went wrong and what went right. When you feel ready, forgiveness can provide a welcome sense of release for both sides. If the relationship was toxic or emotionally damaging, it may be helpful to create space between you and the other party. If the relationship is worth saving, having an open and honest talk – without blame – can help. Being willing to apologize can be a powerful step, too.
Recognizing how you may have contributed to the issues could help prevent such problems in the future. This kind of healing will be different for everyone and calls for patience and thoughtfulness. These things happen, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s the end and rebuilding trust is essential if the relationship is to move forward.
“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven. Give, and you will receive.” (Luke 6:37–38, NLT)
-John Driggers, Spiritual Advisor for Myers-Davis (3/3/2025, V7#9)
